Step 10, 12 Steps, making amends

When I first ever walked into a 12 step meeting, I wanted to know what these magical 12 steps where and figure out how quick to get through them so that I could be cured.

I have come to realize that they are only 12 steps because they have to be put into an order of some sort. Really, and step 10 makes it clear, these things are a way of life. Surrender, focus on making yourself better and learn to relate to others. That is what the steps are about, a way of life to do those things that are unnatural to an addict and make them natural.

To apologize for actions without expecting in return. To feel injured by another and look inside yourself to see what you could do different. To learn to be a better person and learn to do better.

Making amends is not a natural thing, it is easier to whine over one's own wounds but that is not what a true relationship, relating without manipulating, giving yourself away, that is how we find ourself. Our true self.

Under the Mercy,
MS